This is a really good thing and if you have done this work, you know how powerful these shifts are. So many negative things we thought were part of our personality turn out to be symptoms of dysregulation and unresolved trauma that go away the more we heal. They aren’t who we are at all.
As we develop more skills and perspective, we become better and kinder. But with awareness can sometimes come shame. Looking back at how I reacted to situations and people I have felt a lot of shame. Memories will come into my head and I’ll literally cringe.
If you’ve done the work to grow and are now looking back in horror at your less evolved past self, you are not alone. But that part of you (which is often a much more childlike part) needs love and compassion from you now. It is safe to forgive yourself. You deserve compassion. We all do.